I hope your short week for most and regular for some is going well! I was talking with some girlfriends about the things in life I want to change about my current status in life in many areas of my life. And as we were talking I was thinking about the “WHY” I wanted change in different areas and they were talking about their “WHYs”.
In this conversation I realized how easy it is to seek change based on the perception of others and the vibes you get from others and others insecurities that can creep up under the radar like “YOU” have them when you don’t!
It happens so easily but what I shared with them and what I want to share with you is DON’T change because you think that is what other’s want you to do. DON’T change the interaction between yourself and other individuals UNLESS it will be a blessing to your life and those you love!
We can’t afford to live our lives based on other people’s insecurities. We most stand confidently in our own awesomeness. How often do we change how we look to satisfy someone else’s perception of us? Now, of the bat some of you will be like NOPE not ME! But really think about other situations where you began to change when really it was not benefiting you but other people….Just think.
Thank you for stopping by to check out my chat about Building Bridges Over Barriers today. Unfortunately Facebook live was not working for me so you can only catch it on Periscope.
For those who are new my page, my name is Kimberly Walker and I am the CEO & Founder of Curves Beautifully Empowered. My passion and purpose is to inspire and empower people to soar into their personal awesomeness!!!! You can always find me here but also on Periscope: kimberlyjwalker, Facebook: /kimjwalker and Instagram: Kimberlywalkercbe!
So here are a few thoughts I have about creating bridges in life so you can be successful in whatever it is in life that you want to pursue.
BUILDING BRIDGES OVER BARRIERS
1. Have the right mindset! In other words, get yo mind right!!! Tell yourself “I will conquer this barrier!” everyday and any moment you feel fear and doubt creeping over your shoulder. Also make sure that you are thinking outside of the box! Yes as a matter of fact don’t stay in the box, think outside of it, go around it and flip that mofo OVER! You don’t have time to be boxed in and limited. The biggest barrier starts with your mindset.
2. Do the work! Research it! Find out who has achieved what you desire in your life. Seek out “think partners” who will stretch you beyond what you can see. Seek out mentors! And not the mentors who just want to say that they have mentees. Find a mentor who will help hold your hand at times and share resources. And when you find these folks, make sure you align yourself with them. That means also investing in yourself and using those coins to pay for their time. Most successful folks love to share but time is also money and there has to be a balance so be ready to invest in what you seek. But most importantly build authentic relationships in life will make you or break you.
3. Don’t stop until you get your yes. NO is temporary! No is a line that you can step over to get your yes!. NO for me equals New Options! It just an opportunity for me to figure out what else is other there. To figure out, what is missing. That is why I use vision boards to keep me focused on my goals and no matter what walls or barriers pop up I am still focused with time lines and deadlines.
Until next Friday, God Bless!!!
To me being a respectful human being means that I value myself and others. And because I do I have boundaries and take care in the way I speak and how I behave in public and behind closed doors.
Bottom line when you walk in a respectful nature you take care in how you represent yourself in all manners of life. A respectful human being pays attention to what is going on at the surface and looking to dig deeper.
Superficial is often not being real with oneself, it is not speaking the truth or your truth. It really is not being honest about your feelings and motives in the words you say and the way you behave in your actions!
I feel like this is an epidemic.
So how do you know the difference? How do we stay authentic?
Take your time to get to know people. Why are you rushing it? What will be lost if you set aside time to have some real conversations and get to know people’s heart?
And while you are having these conversations, make sure your ears are open and eyes seeing the reflection of their speech in their actions and interactions.
Your people pleasing ways will always get in your way. I know go ahead and say it! I am bothered and I don’t care what people think. Ummmhmmm many say that but if you are not invited to an event, or the right people didn’t like your post or you’re not the go to person for XY & Z….Can you sit with that?
Can you stand being unliked? Because if you cannot then you are more than likely living a lavishly superficial lifestyle and you lack the truth tellers in your life that will help keep you grounded.
Queens know Queens and Kings know Kings…meaning you know when you meet someone if you are of the same cloth, have the same vibe, of the same spirit AND so you really know when you are not! Which means when you are pressing to force a relationship to happen for whatever benefit you THINK you will get…you might as well be pouring salt into koolaid…it will never be sweet.
In other words, follow favor. You are doing yourself an injustice of trying to fit into where you are not wanted. To force a connection or a door that is not open to you. Listen, you know and they know the right connection is not there and so it will be a fake, false, superficial union that will never serve you well.
When it is all said and done you must look in the mirror and feel good about the person you are…the person you are becoming. We should all strive to become better respectful human beings.
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We are so excited to support Ms. Teka Marie in her fabulous vision as Creative Director!
*Alena Larie, Kariba Jacks in the center!
I opened my eyes still laying down after a good night of sleep, finally, and I thought today will be a full day! I was excited however. I saw the marketing for the Ladies Day Party Beauty Bar + Boutique months before and bought two tickets. One for my gorgeous sister Alena and one for myself of course. I believe it is important to support other women doing amazing things in our area and I was excited to attend Kariba’s event for the first time.
We hopped on I-5 south to Tacoma. We found the venue with ease and circled around a few times and found a parking spot and paid $2 for all day parking. Not bad at all. We walked into the space and was greeted at the door. A sequined photo back drop to our right with fun accessories for pictures.
We gave our name and entered into a warm room, buzzing with conversation and vibing with a DJ LuceScrewz spinning on the 1s & 2s the room was visually pleasing. Mimosas and refreshments greeted us. Simply Kay’s Ladies Paint Night (http://www.ladiespaintnight.com) table to our right, I already knew that would be my first stop after grabbing refreshments (yes to food!). After creating a master piece I made my rounds to shop. I met the lovely Ebony from Beauty With E Artistry (www.bweartistry.com) and I entered a drawing for a makeup basket. I hate to say…I did not win it! Next was the Stylist/National Expansion Leader Letrese who sold me a gorgeous long gold key necklace (www.tracilynnjewelry.net/3871). Had a little fashion show with Lularoe’s Elle Saunders. I learned about a product I had not heard of before called Kyani (www.kyaniscience.com) which can improve a number of health concerns based on the information I was given. There were many other vendors present but one in particular I thought was really cool. Her Big Day presents a Cultural Wedding Affair with Beri and Karen. Perhaps it is the former wedding planner in me but I loved their concept and exchanged contact information. I look forward to attending their event on January 29, 2017 (WWW.HERBIGDAY2017.EVENTBRITE.COM) and sharing all about.
*Photography by Alena L. Walker
Now let’s take a moment and meet who made all of this possible! Ms. Kariba Jack!
KW: What prompted your vision?
So the vision that prompted us was that fact that people love doing events and love going to networking events. But no one has the urge to keep doing them so I created Doux Networking (www.douxnetworking.com) and Doux in French means sweet and I was like Oh My God I should use Doux and there will be a series of networking events.
KW: Great, so you will do more of them?
Yes, I will do more. So, the first networking event I did was last October and it was called Curl’s Night Out, like a wine night for natural hair sisters. And I wanted to broaden the scope and so we have today the Ladies Day Party.
KW: Love it and you are having a great turn out and ladies are having a good time. So I am asking the ladies what pulled them out and what are some of their favorite buys?
KJ: The process was simple for the fact that I do the Seattle Natural’s Extravaganza, so I do expos. Doing something on that scale but mini if that makes sense.
KW: Yes, it does.
KJ: But yeah, finding a venue, from the venue picking the right date it’s finding the date that works in my schedule. Making sure there is parking the promotions and marketing. Making sure the branding is looking good for your flyer. A good price point like for this one I wanted to keep it very low, the cover was really to pay for unlimited drinks. After that it is keep on pushing.
KW: Do you learn anything new each time you put on an event?
KJ: Yes, I keep reminding myself that people do not read! Lol, people don’t read the fine print, the fine details. There will be the same questions like what day is it? Or what time does it start? So don’t get frustrated with that. And I learned that parking is huge no matter where the event is at. And when you can incorporate parking it just makes it so much better
KW: Well I only paying $2.00 in parking, yay. When you are targeting women what are you hoping they get out of your event?
KJ: Connections, everything is built on connections. So people showing up today are built on connections from before so it is very important. So I want them to meet new people and so when I hear people say oh I didn’t know you did this or that, when I hear that I feel like I accomplished my goal. People creating connections and bonds.
KW: How can people get a hold of you?
KJ: If you want to connect with me, I am on every social media platform for the most part. They can find me through my photography website at www.karibaphotography.com if you need head shots, family photos or wedding photography please call me. They can also find me on twitter and Instagram @mskariba
*Photography by: Alena L. Walker
*As always, stay tuned to hear about more empowering women doing amazing things in our world!
Karen Terrado, M.Ed.| South King County, Washington | Organization: SOAR | Building Effective Partnerships for Children, Youth and Families
Karen Terrado leads SOAR’s Youth Development and Engagement work in King County, Washington. She is an advocate for youth voice and works to expand and create pathways for young people to learn, engage and organize. She is a University of Washington graduate, a Bachelor degree in Society, Ethics and Human Behavior with minor in Human Rights and a Master in Education Policy. Prior to working with SOAR, Karen designed and implemented research-driven community projects like Bothell Youth Court, that serves the Northshore School District, hearing traffic violations by youth for youth guided by restorative justice principles. She has been a strong partner and supporter to various youth, equity and social change projects and initiatives in Washington State
Kimberly Walker is an inspirational speaker & writer, goal coach, national beauty queen, inspirational facilitator, and a policy & programming facilitator for early learning . Kimberly is also the founder and CEO of Curves Beautifully Empowered (CBE) which sole purpose is to empower women to attain their goals successfully and have body confidence. She currently holds the national title American Beauties Plus Lifetime Queen where her platform is to empower women to achieve their goals and live their dreams.
Kimberly’s educational background includes a Bachelor of Arts in Advertising from Washington State University’s Edward R. Murrow School of Communications. Kimberly earned a Masters of Social Work degree with emphasis on Policy & Administration from the University of Washington’s School of Social Work. Additionally Ms. Walker is passionate about serving her community, and has spent a number of years serving on; The Advisory Board King County Community Organizing, King County Children and Family Commission, King County Children’s Mental Health Services Health N’ Action, King County Youth Involvement Project Youth N’ Action and Seattle Times Youth Advisory Board. Additionally, she established the Kinship Konnection and serves 40 to 50 families a month with household items and resources. Kimberly has served a number of community based organizations and faith based organizations in her pursuit of improving her community.
Ultimately, Kimberly’s mission is to transform the lives of women by giving support, tools and provide experiences needed to live an empowered life. She defines empowerment as the promotion of self-actualization of one’s inner beauty and power.”
“CBE is so necessary and important to me because I am a woman with dreams and curves. As many women have approached me over the years with questions about my ability to be confident, I realized there is a need. I know when a woman does not fit a standard of beauty in this society they are often limited by either their own perception of self and or by how others treat them. However, when you know who you are, your personal worth and the power you have as a woman, your quality of life can increase tremendously. My platform’s mission is to transform the lives of women with curves by giving support, tools and provide experiences needed to live an empowered life. I define empowerment as the promotion of self-actualization of one’s inner beauty and power.”