When I was a young girl I remember playing on a grass hill and one of my aunts called out to me “You look soooo big and black!” as the sun was cascading on my back. It was clear in her tone and smirk that this was the worst possible names to be called. It was summer, I was heading into the fourth grade and for years after, that moment played in the back of my mind.
I was blessed with a mother who always talked about how beautiful my “black” was. She is a San Francisco native who grew up with “Say it Loud! I’m Black and I’m PROUD” She would tell me the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice! After that you could not tell me my black was not sweet.
As for the “big”, it creep up on me in 3rd grade. And continue to expand over the years. I wasn’t too concerned about that part besides she was NO little nugget herself lol.
What my aunt did was let me in on the fact that not everyone sees me as being beautiful. In her eyes, my dark melanin damned me to ugliness. I’m still praying for her. Lol, my point is beauty is all of you, from the birth mark to your body shape to your mane. It is all beauty that you must see in yourself. The world is cruel in how they define beauty. Don’t you dare be cruel to yourself.
Hope or being hopeful is a state of being and believing.
I live in a mindset of being hopeful! It keeps me expecting the best our of life and it keeps me motivated to stay the course for my goals and dreams.
I hopeful that each day will be better than before.
I am hopeful that my faith in God will sustain me even when I become doubtful and fearful.
I am hopeful that the people I surround myself with have my best interest at heart.
I am hopeful that the best is yet to come.
I encourage you to say out loud what you are hopeful for and live with an intentional heart.
Karen Terrado, M.Ed.| South King County, Washington | Organization: SOAR | Building Effective Partnerships for Children, Youth and Families
Karen Terrado leads SOAR’s Youth Development and Engagement work in King County, Washington. She is an advocate for youth voice and works to expand and create pathways for young people to learn, engage and organize. She is a University of Washington graduate, a Bachelor degree in Society, Ethics and Human Behavior with minor in Human Rights and a Master in Education Policy. Prior to working with SOAR, Karen designed and implemented research-driven community projects like Bothell Youth Court, that serves the Northshore School District, hearing traffic violations by youth for youth guided by restorative justice principles. She has been a strong partner and supporter to various youth, equity and social change projects and initiatives in Washington State
For the next few months I will be sharing some amazing empowering stories about women who are doing amazing things and guess what? They are simply like you and me but they have made the choice to take risks, go after their goals and soar.
On January 21st, 2017 I will be hosting an amazing women’s empowerment experience! Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience II to be exact! And you know what? The most awesome aspect about taking on this project is the women I meet who give their time to empower and inspire the woman next to them. Last year I found myself in tears just taken aback by the authentic connections I saw being made. Needless to say 2017 will be epic and I can’t wait! I am inspired by each of these ladies!
Now, what is Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience II? It is a platform to encourage women to see, accept, and soar in their personal awesomeness. It is an opportunity for women to change their lives by the taking necessary steps to achieve their goals. This event is for the woman who has it all together but needs to be refueled, and for the woman who is trying to figure it out. The Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience II weekend will provide an opportunity for women to connect with each other, hear powerful stories, and feel inspired to move forward in their personal journey.
Mission: To transform the lives of women by providing empowering and inspiring experiences necessary to living an empowered life.
Vision: To see every woman with curves large and small to take the risks in life necessary to achieve her dream.
I can’t wait to introduce you to the inspirational women who will be joining our luncheon and panel discussions “Empowering Her and Inspiring You” & “Health, Wealth & Curves”, personal development workshops and ending with MIXXEDFIT! There will be opportunity for vendors which equals great shopping!
Registration will open soon! And the unveiling of the awesome day so stay tuned!!!!!
Can you believe that 2015 is almost out the door? I would ask what DID you accomplish but better yet I want to ask you what DO you want to accomplish in 2016?
- New job?
- Start a business?
- New Car?
- New friendship?
- Date more often?
- Take a great vacation?
- Try a new hobby?
- Try a new recipe?
what is it that you want to accomplish? Well here is a great opportunity help you focus by creating YOUR vision board and help with identifying what are some key tasks you can do to get there.
Of course there will be good food, all the trimmings for creating your vision board. You are welcome to bring items special to you to add. You will connect with awesome women who have goal achievement in the brain and words of inspiration coming from the heart.
The post today is very simple. You can hear the word NO or you can accept it. Now what is the difference? When you hear the word NO you can let is resonate and figure out what does it mean for you at that time of hearing it. Or you can accept the answer NO and not move forward in whatever quest your seeking.
Remember this and I’m sure you have heard it a million times! No = Rejection = Direction = Correction ultimately you land in the right spot when you are able to wisely hear the word NO and keep working. Never stop seeking what you want to achieve but be wise enough to HEAR and follow the direction it is leading you.
As a full figured woman, I am very serious about creating opportunities that benefit women with curves. I am very excited about the current movement that Lane Bryant is spear heading but more importantly I am excited about the women world wide who are posting, sharing and speaking out loud that #plusisequal! Every woman is beautiful in her own right regardless of her size, skin color and style choices. This is a great opportunity for women to be heard.
Think about this, if every full figured woman accepted the answer NO where would the plus industry be? Because AMAZING women have stepped up their game to provide a yes to the NO of the main stream fashion world we have been blessed with amazing plus fashion.
4 tips for you today:
1. No is an opportunity, not a dead end.
2. Never stop reaching towards your goal because of rejection.
3. When the doors are always close, go ahead and build your door and become the gate keeper.
3. Plus Is Equal, the full figured, curvy, bodacious woman is equal to all women.
Check out and support www.plusisequal.com
I was thinking there are days, weeks or months when we can feel unappreciated, lonely, unproductive, frustrated and unhappy with their current place in life….So what changes it?
A few thoughts:
- First and foremost reframing you mind. The number one factor that determines how you will live each day.
- Changing the environment, people and space.
- Trying something new (branch outside your norm)
- Revamp your perception. (For example: I can be upset at people for not doing for me what I do for them or I can accept the fact that the way I think and do is unique to me and to have expectations of others to do the same is not productive.
- Dressing up to have an amazing day even when you feel blah.
- Declare your I statements: I will not stay in my current funk! I am excited about reaching my goals! I believe that I can do it! I know what I am feeling is only temporary!
As human being we often live complicated lives due to our complicated thinking. We have to learn to take a few moments to reflect and simplify our lives. I would love for you to join me and my list of inspiring and empowering speakers on August 28th-30th to come and use that time to hear from others and work on what is important to you. I can’t imagine where I would I be without the amazing people I surround myself with to help celebrate me in awesome times and to help restore me in my low valleys. Like it or not everyone has their moments.
Wishing everyone an amazing weekend!
If you have been following Curves Beautifully Empowered for any length of the time you are more than aware that we love to support and connect with other awesome women who are empowering women. I had the honor to attend Cherish A Jewel’s, 1st Annual Be Bold Be You Women’s Empowerment & Networking Bruch in Seattle, WA. Before I share about the fabulousness of the day please let me share a little bit about the founder Ms. Crystal Townsend.
Crystal is the Founder of Cherish A Jewel, visionary, mother, sister and friend to many. She is as beautiful on the inside as she is stunning on the outside with a heart for girls and women.
“My vision for Cherish A Jewel stems from my desire and hope to see women, men, and youth reach their full potential. As a woman who has gone through her own pressure and polishing process, I am inspired to empower change in others while they are yet in their process.
With the support of the postive people around me I was able to take productive control of my life. I am stronger, wiser, and in a focused purposeful place to give back. It is my heart’s desire that Cherish A Jewel is that supportive platform used to reach others – to support and to empower just as I have been supported and empowered.” ~Crystal Townsend www.cherishajewel.com
As you entered the event it was warm, sophisticated and beautifully decorated! Be Bold Be You Women’s Empowerment & Networking Brunch kicked off with a vibrant brunch prepared by panelist member Dayo Jones’s Company Dayo Sense Catering and Dinners To Go. Who later shared that she was an Architect who started pre-paring to go meals that turned into catering events for 20 to now 10 years later preparing feast for over 600. www.dayosense.com
After we were all well fed we were seated for the panelist portion of the brunch hosted by Latrice Donahue who did a splendid job moderating the panel. The distinguished panel included the keynote speaker Mrs. Liz Nead who was introduced by the gorgeous Sharonda Duncan. Liz shared about her father’s vision at 14 years old of leaving Mumbai to live in the United States and how he passionately pursued her mother until he captured her heart. My take away is that when you change your vision you change your life! When you catch your vision, live your vision and watch it fall into place. www.neadinspiration.com
The creative darling Mrs. Latasha Haynes of Ike and Tash Photography and Motion spoke passionately about the importance of moving forward toward your dreams even when you feel fearful. She shared her amazing story of how she grew up in the foster care system and on her wedding day she met her family. 8 years of marriage and 5 years of running a successful business she was truly an inspiration. www.photomelatasha.com
The dynamic duo Shalon Jasper and Dior Davenport of Shador Studio of Esthetics who are sisters gave great insight on their thriving business which added a Washington State accreditation for training in their field. The sisters who both hold masters’ in education shared their experiences about life trials that successfully prepared them for the work they are doing today. The ladies of Shador Spa message was clear, start now and professionally walk in your purpose until you master it. “Fake until you make it!” www.shadorspa.com
Empowerment focused Lynnae Pompeo with AdvoCare shared her passion for helping people reach their goals physically and financially. She shared how she achieved having her dream job working in juvenile justice and her fascination of seeing people receive a second chance to live their life positively. www.sparkwhatspossbile.com
The powerful Keuna Barfield of Best Choice Realty talked about how there are two types of people in the world, those that lead and those who follow. She clearly defined herself as being a natural born leader and from an early age she knew entrepreneurship was a must because being told what to do was NOT her forte. It took Keuna 8 months to sell her first home but when she did she sold 3 homes with in that month. www.choicehomes4sale.com
Passionate Candace Smile aka Mz Twist gave a heartfelt testimony for how she survived cancer and launched successfully into her business Mz. Twist Artistry Studio. Candace share how she spent a lot of time doing what others expected her to do but once she fell in love with her creativity she was unstoppable and often amazes herself! www.mztwistartistrystudio.biz
It was an amazing day with amazing women on the panel and in the room. Kudos to Crystal Townsend and her amazing staff and volunteers for putting together a wonderful empowering event! I look forward to attending future events by these amazing women!
TAKE AWAY POINTS
1. Don’t let fear stop you so just do it!
2. Surround yourself with like minded, supportive, positive people!
3. Make it plain, clear, write it, draw it and keep it before you!
Go get your dreams ladies and live it!!!!!!
Photo Courtesy: Alena Larie