A Beauty

Hey Beauty!

A Beauty

 

When I was a young girl I remember playing on a grass hill and one of my aunts called out to me “You look soooo big and black!” as the sun was cascading on my back. It was clear in her tone and smirk that this was the worst possible names to be called. It was summer, I was heading into the fourth grade and for years after, that moment played in the back of my mind.

I was blessed with a mother who always talked about how beautiful my “black” was. She is a San Francisco native who grew up with “Say it Loud! I’m Black and I’m PROUD” She would tell me the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice! After that you could not tell me my black was not sweet.

As for the “big”, it creep up on me in 3rd grade. And continue to expand over the years. I wasn’t too concerned about that part besides she was NO little nugget herself lol.

What my aunt did was let me in on the fact that not everyone sees me as being beautiful. In her eyes, my dark melanin damned me to ugliness. I’m still praying for her. Lol, my point is beauty is all of you, from the birth mark to your body shape to your mane. It is all beauty that you must see in yourself. The world is cruel in how they define beauty. Don’t you dare be cruel to yourself.

Kimberly

XOXO

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Women Empowering Women – Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience

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As the founder and CEO of Curves Beautifully Empowered I feel full and satisfied with the launch of our first Curves Beautifully Empowered Weekend. My vision has been in my mind, talked about with family/friends and written down in my journal for the last 3 years. Last year I woke up one day, not employed, still healing from an almost fatal experience and thinking to myself I am in no shape or form prepare to launch or start working on Curves Beautifully Empowered. But I pressed on and start laying the foundation. Oh and of course the beginning stages have not been easy. Many experiences transpired in preparation for this amazing weekend: defining of personal and professional relationships, ideas being shattered and the complications of life happening. Through all of the adversity Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience has successfully happened and I am over joyed with the outcome and so excited about the future!

Our kick off was warm, wonderful and exciting! We asked the ladies in the room two questions:

  1. Describe a time when Women Empower Women.
  2. Describe a time when Women do NOT Empower Women.

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Oh the answers were real! The comment that stuck out in my head was this. “A woman empowers a woman when she is secure with who she is and content in her life. And a woman does not empower a woman when she is comparing herself to another because of insecurities and lashes out in unhappiness.” That is DEEP right? How often do we speak that truth and be honest with ourselves? And others?

Saturday was a full day of workshops, our panel, Mixxedfit and meals! Here is what happened.

Again, how often can women come together to be supportive and inspirational to each other? The first things that happen was together creating and committing to rules of inspiration and empowerment:

  • Be Open
  • Be Here
  • Be Kind
  • Be Respectful
  • Be Able To Receive
  • Be Yourself
  • Be Drama Free
  • Be A Learner
  • Be Forgiving of yourself and others
  • Be Understanding
  • Be Loving
  • Be Free
  • Be Complimentary
  • Be Real aka Authentic
  • Be Open To Growth
  • Be Awake
  • Be Thankful

Our rule of engagement set the tone for a movement of inspiration and empowerment to be born in Washington State. Each woman brought something to give and walked away with some nuggets to keep.

Our first workshop “Reflection to Perfection” left us with two huge nuggets. One of the first things we learned is that we are constantly experiencing 3 stages in our life.

Climbing >   Going higher

Rebuilding > Starting Over-Building

Stumbling > Trying to get up

Every woman identified where they currently were, this helpful because it gives each lady a marker for where her work and goal setting needs to be but also that it is truly okay we are all at a center level for a reason. The second nugget given was that perfection is really equated to being FREE! Now, that blow our minds because how often do we equate perfection to stress, getting it right, not making mistakes and our Inspirational Workshop speaker Ruth Walker shared that perfection is our ability to be free in who we are. Perfection was never an achievement but the journey. BLOWN AWAY! Connect: http://www.pruthie.com

Our second Inspirational Workshop Speaker DeAndrea Williams came and laid us out with awesome beauty tips in our Polish It workshop. My favorite tip was buy lip sticks, shadow colors that you love cheaply at our favorite bargain stores but spend the extra for a great foundation. Here are a few more of her tips:

  • Purchase the correct undergarments for your wardrobe/body! A light spanx or serious body magic can go a long way to create the polish look you desire.
  • In your closet have a pencil skirt, nice fitting button down white shirt, a touch of animal print, a complementing blazer.
  • The make-up you see in magazines are editorial, they are not necessarily made for you to wear at work so be appropriate in your look for the setting you are walking into.
  • Pop in to thrift stores and look around because you will be amazed at what you might find. Mrs. Williams found a $700 never been worn yumminess for her feet!

The best tip that she gave was to ultimately be your -self and love on yourself by looking good and feeling good.

Our power packed lunch with Maura Barclay was so informative. I can’t do all that she shared justice but I walked away with 2 points: Honor the PING, you know that thing that tells you when you’re walking the park to be cautious or the guy you’re on the date with just gave off bad energy. Which means the PING is telling you to flee from the situation. It does not matter what others think about your actions. Your safety and wellbeing is QUEEN! Secondly, our power is in our body and how we present our body. Stand tall and boldly. To know more about Maura is to love her: www.unbreakablewoman.com

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Now let’s chat about our panel with the topic of “Be Empowered, Move Forward” what a breathe taking and life giving experience. Each woman had so much to share but here is what stuck out to me about what each woman shared.

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Kimi Lee King a health and wellness expert shared, keep it simple, we often complicate life where we don’t have to. Take each moment as it comes. I LOVE Kimi for this reminder! Connect: klking@seattleymca.org

Diane Lutovsky talked about how she created Life Lessons Academy in honor of her mother who felt like she was just a mother and not worthy of even a calendar. Creates opportunities for women to learn about many topics and provides a headshot. Connect: www.Lifelessonsacademy.com

Karly Rose a woman who did poorly in school never thought that she would be an owner of 2 award winning businesses and national beauty pageant title holder but now stands boldly sharing her story about dealing with body image issues. www.klassypermanentcosmetics.com

Kakela Hall Sr. gave a remarkable account about how as a younger woman she made a choice that could have robbed her of her freedom and how she handled that. She also shared how her and her husband took their savings after she had been laid off and 5 months pregnant to launch their business KD Hall Communications. Connect: Kela@kdhall.com | www.kdhall.com

Stephanie Rose an Advertising Executive and mother spoke about balancing work life and family life and the importance of creating a professional reputation that makes employers seek you because the level of work you provide is above and beyond. Connect: Srose@hbi.com

Kathei McCoy spoke about leaving her 6 figure income to launch her business of being a public speaker and life coach for others and how when tragedy struck her with the loss of her son, how she moved forward. Learn more: www.katheimccoy.com

Fralisa McFall shared about her experience of opening her school Imagination School and how she is able to provide a level of service to students that is unique to her school. Fralisa also shared how people can make a judgement on image and miss out providing their children with a unique opportunity of learning.

Denise Johnson a mother and national beauty queen was the moderator and brought great perspective to the discussion. Denise restated the importance of women coming together to support, uplift and inspire each other because there are so many jewels that can be shared amongst each other.

Saturday conclude with a hot Mixxedfit session by Deidre Daymon that worked out each and every woman in the building. Wearing our Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience T-shirts (available to you) and our white socks we had a fun work out! Join her weekly class: deidrediane@hotmail.com

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Happy Friday

Reflection Time

Happy Friday

Happy Friday!

I was thinking there are days, weeks or months when we can feel unappreciated, lonely, unproductive, frustrated and unhappy with their current place in life….So what changes it?

A few thoughts:

  • First and foremost reframing you mind. The number one factor that determines how you will live each day.
  • Changing the environment, people and space.
  • Trying something new (branch outside your norm)
  •  Revamp your perception. (For example: I can be upset at people for not doing for me what I do for them or I can accept the fact that the way I think and do is unique to me and to have expectations of others to do the same is not productive.
  • Dressing up to have an amazing day even when you feel blah.
  • Declare your I statements: I will not stay in my current funk! I am excited about reaching my goals! I believe that I can do it! I know what I am feeling is only temporary!

As human being we often live complicated lives due to our complicated thinking. We have to learn to take a few moments to reflect and simplify our lives. I would love for you to join me and my list of inspiring and empowering speakers on August 28th-30th to come and use that time to hear from others and work on what is important to you. I can’t imagine where I would I be without the amazing people I surround myself with to help celebrate me in awesome times and to help restore me in my low valleys. Like it or not everyone has their moments.

Wishing everyone an amazing weekend!

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You are worth it!

You Are Worth It!

Ladies! How often have you questioned yourself and said “Am I worth it”? Some of us it is every single day and others when life gets a bit heavy and we are completely worn out. I am here to tell you today that when those moments occur you will tell yourself “YES Woman, You are MORE than worth it every single breath”!

And why???

Because you were created to be just you! Not the images you see on the golden screen or in your living room, not the image you see when you finally got your caboose to the gym and not what others might have said to you. You are that wonderful person that wakes up and looks in the mirror to prepare for another day.

“One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go.” — Sheila Murray Bethel

You are amazing just the way you are and you and only you have to power to improve upon yourself to be a better you each and every day. We all have our moments of feeling down and low but what is important is that we do not stay there. Put on your favorite song and SHAKE IT OFF! And have a fabulous moment moving forward.

You are CURVES BEAUTIFULLY EMPOWERED!

 

Next we are talking about 3 steps to feel empowered! Stay tuned!!!!