It is a pleasure to announce one of our Inspirational Panel Speaker Misty Schmidt!
Misty Schmidt is a wife and mother of two. She currently resides in Southwest Washington and is originally from Northern CA. Being an inspirational speaker and writer are among her many talents. She has a passion for helping women realize their worth, beauty and personal truth. This passion has led her to found Sister Love (motivational tools, blog, Instagram, website, daily positive message) with the purpose of helping encourage people, as well as guide them on their path to healing and growth. Sister Love focuses on emotional health, physical health and spiritual health.
Misty’s educational background includes a BA in Social and Behavioral Studies as well as Management and Organizational Leadership from George Fox University. She is also Alumni with Perspectives on the World Christian Movement. Additionally, Misty is very passionate about serving her community. She has spent over 10 years mentoring youth and serving in international missions/humanitarian services as well as women’s ministries at the churches she has attended.
From being a plus size model on the runway of New York Fashion week to speaking from brokenness with her mission team in the depths of the Amazon, she believes we all have a purpose and we are all capable of finding our worth, confidence and truth. Misty derives great joy from sharing her life journey with authenticity and vulnerability.
The post today is very simple. You can hear the word NO or you can accept it. Now what is the difference? When you hear the word NO you can let is resonate and figure out what does it mean for you at that time of hearing it. Or you can accept the answer NO and not move forward in whatever quest your seeking.
Remember this and I’m sure you have heard it a million times! No = Rejection = Direction = Correction ultimately you land in the right spot when you are able to wisely hear the word NO and keep working. Never stop seeking what you want to achieve but be wise enough to HEAR and follow the direction it is leading you.
As a full figured woman, I am very serious about creating opportunities that benefit women with curves. I am very excited about the current movement that Lane Bryant is spear heading but more importantly I am excited about the women world wide who are posting, sharing and speaking out loud that #plusisequal! Every woman is beautiful in her own right regardless of her size, skin color and style choices. This is a great opportunity for women to be heard.
Think about this, if every full figured woman accepted the answer NO where would the plus industry be? Because AMAZING women have stepped up their game to provide a yes to the NO of the main stream fashion world we have been blessed with amazing plus fashion.
4 tips for you today:
1. No is an opportunity, not a dead end.
2. Never stop reaching towards your goal because of rejection.
3. When the doors are always close, go ahead and build your door and become the gate keeper.
3. Plus Is Equal, the full figured, curvy, bodacious woman is equal to all women.
Check out and support www.plusisequal.com
As the founder and CEO of Curves Beautifully Empowered I feel full and satisfied with the launch of our first Curves Beautifully Empowered Weekend. My vision has been in my mind, talked about with family/friends and written down in my journal for the last 3 years. Last year I woke up one day, not employed, still healing from an almost fatal experience and thinking to myself I am in no shape or form prepare to launch or start working on Curves Beautifully Empowered. But I pressed on and start laying the foundation. Oh and of course the beginning stages have not been easy. Many experiences transpired in preparation for this amazing weekend: defining of personal and professional relationships, ideas being shattered and the complications of life happening. Through all of the adversity Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience has successfully happened and I am over joyed with the outcome and so excited about the future!
Our kick off was warm, wonderful and exciting! We asked the ladies in the room two questions:
- Describe a time when Women Empower Women.
- Describe a time when Women do NOT Empower Women.
Oh the answers were real! The comment that stuck out in my head was this. “A woman empowers a woman when she is secure with who she is and content in her life. And a woman does not empower a woman when she is comparing herself to another because of insecurities and lashes out in unhappiness.” That is DEEP right? How often do we speak that truth and be honest with ourselves? And others?
Saturday was a full day of workshops, our panel, Mixxedfit and meals! Here is what happened.
Again, how often can women come together to be supportive and inspirational to each other? The first things that happen was together creating and committing to rules of inspiration and empowerment:
- Be Open
- Be Here
- Be Kind
- Be Respectful
- Be Able To Receive
- Be Yourself
- Be Drama Free
- Be A Learner
- Be Forgiving of yourself and others
- Be Understanding
- Be Loving
- Be Free
- Be Complimentary
- Be Real aka Authentic
- Be Open To Growth
- Be Awake
- Be Thankful
Our rule of engagement set the tone for a movement of inspiration and empowerment to be born in Washington State. Each woman brought something to give and walked away with some nuggets to keep.
Our first workshop “Reflection to Perfection” left us with two huge nuggets. One of the first things we learned is that we are constantly experiencing 3 stages in our life.
Climbing > Going higher
Rebuilding > Starting Over-Building
Stumbling > Trying to get up
Every woman identified where they currently were, this helpful because it gives each lady a marker for where her work and goal setting needs to be but also that it is truly okay we are all at a center level for a reason. The second nugget given was that perfection is really equated to being FREE! Now, that blow our minds because how often do we equate perfection to stress, getting it right, not making mistakes and our Inspirational Workshop speaker Ruth Walker shared that perfection is our ability to be free in who we are. Perfection was never an achievement but the journey. BLOWN AWAY! Connect: http://www.pruthie.com
Our second Inspirational Workshop Speaker DeAndrea Williams came and laid us out with awesome beauty tips in our Polish It workshop. My favorite tip was buy lip sticks, shadow colors that you love cheaply at our favorite bargain stores but spend the extra for a great foundation. Here are a few more of her tips:
- Purchase the correct undergarments for your wardrobe/body! A light spanx or serious body magic can go a long way to create the polish look you desire.
- In your closet have a pencil skirt, nice fitting button down white shirt, a touch of animal print, a complementing blazer.
- The make-up you see in magazines are editorial, they are not necessarily made for you to wear at work so be appropriate in your look for the setting you are walking into.
- Pop in to thrift stores and look around because you will be amazed at what you might find. Mrs. Williams found a $700 never been worn yumminess for her feet!
The best tip that she gave was to ultimately be your -self and love on yourself by looking good and feeling good.
Our power packed lunch with Maura Barclay was so informative. I can’t do all that she shared justice but I walked away with 2 points: Honor the PING, you know that thing that tells you when you’re walking the park to be cautious or the guy you’re on the date with just gave off bad energy. Which means the PING is telling you to flee from the situation. It does not matter what others think about your actions. Your safety and wellbeing is QUEEN! Secondly, our power is in our body and how we present our body. Stand tall and boldly. To know more about Maura is to love her: www.unbreakablewoman.com
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Now let’s chat about our panel with the topic of “Be Empowered, Move Forward” what a breathe taking and life giving experience. Each woman had so much to share but here is what stuck out to me about what each woman shared.
Kimi Lee King a health and wellness expert shared, keep it simple, we often complicate life where we don’t have to. Take each moment as it comes. I LOVE Kimi for this reminder! Connect: email@example.com
Diane Lutovsky talked about how she created Life Lessons Academy in honor of her mother who felt like she was just a mother and not worthy of even a calendar. Creates opportunities for women to learn about many topics and provides a headshot. Connect: www.Lifelessonsacademy.com
Karly Rose a woman who did poorly in school never thought that she would be an owner of 2 award winning businesses and national beauty pageant title holder but now stands boldly sharing her story about dealing with body image issues. www.klassypermanentcosmetics.com
Kakela Hall Sr. gave a remarkable account about how as a younger woman she made a choice that could have robbed her of her freedom and how she handled that. She also shared how her and her husband took their savings after she had been laid off and 5 months pregnant to launch their business KD Hall Communications. Connect: Kela@kdhall.com | www.kdhall.com
Stephanie Rose an Advertising Executive and mother spoke about balancing work life and family life and the importance of creating a professional reputation that makes employers seek you because the level of work you provide is above and beyond. Connect: Srose@hbi.com
Kathei McCoy spoke about leaving her 6 figure income to launch her business of being a public speaker and life coach for others and how when tragedy struck her with the loss of her son, how she moved forward. Learn more: www.katheimccoy.com
Fralisa McFall shared about her experience of opening her school Imagination School and how she is able to provide a level of service to students that is unique to her school. Fralisa also shared how people can make a judgement on image and miss out providing their children with a unique opportunity of learning.
Denise Johnson a mother and national beauty queen was the moderator and brought great perspective to the discussion. Denise restated the importance of women coming together to support, uplift and inspire each other because there are so many jewels that can be shared amongst each other.
Saturday conclude with a hot Mixxedfit session by Deidre Daymon that worked out each and every woman in the building. Wearing our Curves Beautifully Empowered Experience T-shirts (available to you) and our white socks we had a fun work out! Join her weekly class: firstname.lastname@example.org
I was thinking there are days, weeks or months when we can feel unappreciated, lonely, unproductive, frustrated and unhappy with their current place in life….So what changes it?
A few thoughts:
- First and foremost reframing you mind. The number one factor that determines how you will live each day.
- Changing the environment, people and space.
- Trying something new (branch outside your norm)
- Revamp your perception. (For example: I can be upset at people for not doing for me what I do for them or I can accept the fact that the way I think and do is unique to me and to have expectations of others to do the same is not productive.
- Dressing up to have an amazing day even when you feel blah.
- Declare your I statements: I will not stay in my current funk! I am excited about reaching my goals! I believe that I can do it! I know what I am feeling is only temporary!
As human being we often live complicated lives due to our complicated thinking. We have to learn to take a few moments to reflect and simplify our lives. I would love for you to join me and my list of inspiring and empowering speakers on August 28th-30th to come and use that time to hear from others and work on what is important to you. I can’t imagine where I would I be without the amazing people I surround myself with to help celebrate me in awesome times and to help restore me in my low valleys. Like it or not everyone has their moments.
Wishing everyone an amazing weekend!
I was excited to see the cover of People Magazine with plus size model Tess Holliday. Later in the week I watched her interview on the morning shows. What I thought about is how did she get there? She is a great example of an empowered woman who lives life on her terms. I have to assume that Tess had to take some steps in order to get to her current life situation. What I want to share this week are a few steps for you to feel empowered. Of course there are many ways to get there but here are a few of my favorite.
Feel empowered in 1, 2, 3…
The reality is all it takes is a few moments to feel empowered. Each day when you wake up look in the mirror and say “Today is my day” you are taking control of your day. Are you asking why? The quickest way to change your current situation is to change the way you think. There is a great quote that says “IF you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. There is a lot of truth in that statement. So, your #1 tip to feeling empowered is to plan to take control of your day (everyday) and say “Today is MY day!”
Now, while you’re looking in the mirror what do you see? The real essence of you is on the inside but your outward appearance is also important. Do you look or feel pretty? Sexy? Confident? Strong? It is amazing what my favorite pair of jeans, cute heels, sassy tee and accessories can do to put me in the mood to tackle life. For you it could be a little black dress or sneakers and at the end of the day, too each her own. Are you asking why? Because when you think you look good, you often feel good and that equates often into CONFIDENCE. Face it, if you think you look like a hot mess, you will feel the same way and how are you going to deal with the world looking and feeling like that? #2 You’re outside can dictate at times how you feel so swag it up and put on your favorite look!
#3 there is nothing better than taking ACTION! The word action has given us some of history’s greatest moments, art and lifestyles. Our actions stir the universe creates the moving and shaking that transpires in our lives. Have you noticed that when you decide to do something how opportunities start opening up? What if Aretha Franklin never pursued her singing career? What if Bill Gates never pursued his genius thoughts? What if they never took action? Then they simply would have never been heard of. There is something that you as an individual are supposed to do. It could be smiling at every person you come in contact with, or starting a business that solves a major problem in the world, or being faithful at reaching your goals and onlookers are inspired to reach their full potential. It all starts with our ability, YOUR ability to take action! Start somewhere!